Long Distance relationships

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by ash828, Jan 23, 2003.

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Long Distance Relationships

  1. Yes!!

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  2. No!!!

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  3. Not Sure!!

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  4. Could care less

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  5. Depends on the situation (added by KingXII)

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  1. ash828

    ash828 New Member

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    How do you feel about long distance relationships???:confused2 :) :(
  2. jfalc8

    jfalc8 New Member

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    i think they stink and dont work out.......however my friends would disagree
  3. ash828

    ash828 New Member

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    I dont think they work either...Do you think people want to have long distance relationships because of love or because they just dont want the other person to be with anybody else???
  4. PlayBOi

    PlayBOi New Member

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    you gotta get some... .. :(
  5. ash828

    ash828 New Member

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    Nah...thats not it... Im just mad cause someone is mad at me cause Im messin with other people and she live like 5 hrs away. :mad:
  6. ctbaker

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    I think long distance relationships are good only if you've already been together for a while and you are ready for a serious commitment. Otherwise, you're setting yourself up for hurt and failure.
  7. UGATraci

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    No! No! No!

    Did I mention....NO!
  8. KingXII

    KingXII S MOD

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    :: added to poll ::
    well there is this couple, both are my friends and they ended breaking up not being together long enough or some other difference. Even though they weren't not that far apart 50 miles/1 hour away but both attend the top 20 universities in the united states. But another friend of mine got married after going away to school for a few years (yeah he came back every break he got). So it really depends on the situation and how long the couple has been together.
  9. UGATraci

    UGATraci New Member

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    In my experience this never works. I do know a couple people who have made it work though.
  10. KingXII

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    it's situational but from what i've noticed is that failure occurs more often than success
  11. Elven

    Elven The Naked Elf

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    Long distance seems to work out fine for me. Letters, e-mail, instant messanger, and the phone keep us in touch and together. Plus the occasional visit. it's not for everyone but it works for us cause we're good kids. ;) Holding hands makes us happy and I'm almost ready for college! Yes. I'm a virgin. So is he.
  12. ash828

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    Im feeling what SI68 is saying cause Im in college and there are 2 many females 4 me to be locked down to one who is 4hrs away
  13. Pol

    Pol Stuck on the M1 <img src="images/smilies/shakehead Staff Member Super Mod

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    They're a waste of time...rarely work out
  14. TracyS831

    TracyS831 Guest

    I say yes and no I was in a long distance relationship before I met John and Now that I have John I realize how great it is having someone close to you. You miss the little things like holding hands and stuff.
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    If the distance is just "she/he goes to a college in another part of the state" it is manageable, as least, from the evidence I've seen.

    Now, I know somene who tried to maintain a distance relationship from the United States with a guy in England... now THAT is just setting yourself up for hurt (but we never could talk her out of that one till she WAS hurt).

    Distance relationships really are situational and depend upon the committment made. If, say, too people are together in High School and have been for 2 or 3 years before going to college, I would say the probability of success is much greater. If it's just a passing "hey, you're cool, lets start a relationship" and try to start and maintan the relationship over a distance, that is just bad news.
  16. theARTiSAN

    theARTiSAN Administrator Staff Member Super Mod

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    I agree.
    I've tried it. They're complicated, easily get messy and generally leave any possiblity for future non-romantic relationship in shambles. I don't recommend it.

    I think people like the security of 'having someone', whether that significant other is nearby or not. It's not just the sex - without the hugs (etc) and general spontanious contact (other than by phone or mail/email) there aren't many points you really have to grow from.


    I don't think it's just the because of a need for sex. (I must say that I wish I would have done what you're doing... Two thumbsup)

    People need physical contact for healthy emotional security in a relationship. If your partner can't be the one to give you a hug when you need it, or even something as simple as a touch on the arm, people have the tendancy to get what they need wherever they can.
    People also have the general tendancy to become paranoid, conspiracy theoristic and insainly jealous when an average imagionation is applied to a situation they don't have any control over...
  17. deejaytwist

    deejaytwist New Member

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    They don't work. Well, based on my experience. ;)
  18. Darkness

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    If my answer was based on experience I'd say they don't work but I didn't answer based on my experience so I say it depends on situation. Sometimes they work sometimes they don't. They are like my computer.
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    it can work! i knew a guy from work that got married to a girl he met on the internet. had a long distance relationship for a couple of months and then he just went to see her and proposed to her. i wonder if they are still together. i lost track of him though.

    BUT HEY ITS POSSIBLE!!!
  20. paco120

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    I would say, long distance relationships are much more successful than online relationships but you should meet the real person in real life to get to know them as well.

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